It’s usually a simple yes or no. Sometimes it’s what to wear today or what to have for dinner. Some decisions, we face on routine like should I go to class today or should I sleep a little longer. Then there are those decisions that take a bit more time, such as ones that are curiously inviting, yet our morals come into question. We always have a choice.

With choices, most of us entertain the idea of a second opinion. It can be anywhere from should we buy this shirt or that gift to should we break up. Big or small, black or white, we often seek the thoughts of our friends and family. It’s not so much that we don’t know the answer, because most of the time, the answer is quite clear. We know we want as well as what we need. Of course we are compelled to buy it, yet the price or practicality taunt our choice. It’s apparent that we want to do it, though a judgment of character shadows our decision. 

So the answer, isn’t what we’re seeking. What we are really searching for is approval. Even just a little nod, makes it that much easier. A second thought is that extra push in the right direction that makes us feel less guilty. It’s as if we are less accountable for our decision because our friend gave us a simple yes. The reassurance comforts us. It’s the justification that gives us the green light, that makes our choice okay.

As much as we like the extra push and the comfort, the decision has always been ours and ours alone. So whether it is accepting a new job or ending a relationship, the choice is always ours. The second opinion is sometimes the bit of encouragement we need. And at times, it is quite motivating, though at the end of the day, we are the ones that decide, the ones that have final say. Yes or no, the responsibility is still on us.